berkat-berkat

sneaking an entry during lunchtime while drinking my vitagen collagen and uh, no food. maybe instant pasta later on in the day?

these past few weeks have been so hectic and my body failed me - i fell sick and finally took an MC on wednesday and got some rest. nose is currently still a leaky tap. been working from home for the past 2 days since and i guess this freedom to work off site has really been a blessing (we get to take 5 days a month of work from home, and usually i take them during reporting period, which is now).

since i've decided to use less instagram and blog more, here are some things i've been up to!:

a shoe box?

my parents in law are super sweet. they usually pack food for us when we go over so we can get to taste home, and this week we didn't go over cos of our schedules. hy's papa dropped by with 2 portions of macaroni in a shoe box haha i really need to start cooking 1 dish meals for my husband soon

meeting up with my jellyfish buds

 because julie lo is late

 just right for 3 people

 fabric shopping for my adorable baby niece! need to start sewing the christmas clothes ASAP.

the husband saying a little prayer every morning hehe

Other sartorial escapades

My bridesmaids' dresses, lhy's and Gabriel's (my ring bearer) suits were less of an emotional affair.

What i regret though, is that we didn't carve out time to take much photos together in our outfits.

My bridesmaids were super relaxed and we didn't have to go shopping cos I just picked their dresses from Taobao. Most of the stuff there were ugly and I decided to go for a sweet heart neckline since it was supposed to be flattering for most body types. I wanted them to look chio and not puffy!

Gorgeous girls

There was still my sister and Zel but they were so busy with the church prep. For Cass, Juls and Hui Yi, I didn't give them much to do. Their objective was just to look pretty. Ha.

Anyway, the Taobao dresses were pretty cheap - all in with shipping worked out to be around $28 per dress. But most needed pretty simple length alterations and we paid additional $10 per dress.

Gabriel's spiffy suit was also from Taobao and cost about $35 all in. He looked so smart! I also bought him new shoes for about $25 but they were too small for him!

As for han yang's suits, we procrastinated for so long! He wanted to tailor make and I went to enquire rates with CYC (which is kind of my dream gift for him, with a monogram shirt) but they were so expensive (1k up per suit). My colleague also recommended a thai tailor who would make trips to Singapore for tailoring appointments but I wasn't very impressed with their quality.

Went online to search for some good tailors in Singapore but they all didn't fit the budget. I found out there were a few tailors in JB and one of them was Men's Focus in Holiday Plaza. Even though I knew Holiday Plaza as a lok-kok, run down shopping centre in the middle of JB, I liked that they took photos of the suits they tailored and posted them online cos you can actually inspect the cut and quality and also get a sense of the tailor's style. Overall I was impressed as the suits looked extremely fitted and smart. There was also a sense of the price range from some of the comments online (his prices started from S$250 and up), and this made me feel safe knowing the tailor was not going to overcharge me if he knew I was from Singapore. With that we took a trip down!

Haha before we went into the shop we pakat to speak Mandarin with malaysian accent. But in the end fail cos tak practice. Anyway I was very impressed when we met the shop owner Lawrence Chia (i think). He is this no nonsense sartorial-nazi who couldn't be bothered to upsell stuff.

We requested for a bunch of fabrics and he handed the swatches to us, and just rattled off the pros and cons of the different qualities. The prices were all written at the back of the swatch booklets.

lhy and I decided to go with 2 suits with quality that was mid-range:

1) Tweed like dark blue with hints of black (for dinner). We paired this with a brown inner vest.
2) Teal, for the church wedding. This was really a 20 second gamble cos after 20 minutes of looking, we were so set on boring brown, and suddenly came across this colour, and because lhy has a red skin tone and so fair, it looked pretty good when we held the swatch against his skin

Lawrence proceeded to take lhy's measurements and I was so impressed because he spent almost 20 minutes on it. lhy told me that usually his tailors take much less time. He was very meticulous and kept asking about his preferences - whether pants should be tapered, whether button should be 2 holes or 3, whether collar should be thinner. He took great pains to explain which was more traditional and which was more in fashion.

I took this time to explore his work space and noticed that he was extremely neat too! Things were really in order, and his own shirt didn't have crinkles and his hair flopped neatly in place. In my mind chided myself for being such a mess whenever I sew. My workspace is perpetually full of thread, pins, loose cloth and I could go hours without eating and washing up. I almost always look like a monster when I emerge from my room. Much to learn! For Lawrence, I think he's the one that does the drawing and cutting, and he probably sends them to a factory to get them sewn.

A happy us having settled everything in a day!

And this was how his suits turned out! My extremely handsome husband.

If i'm not wrong, we paid about S$400 for each suit, and an additional S$100 for the vest. we probably could have gotten something within that range in Singapore for lousier quality materials, but it was extremely satisfying to pay the same for much better workmanship and quality of cloth. And much to learn from Master Chia!

Men's Focus Branded Taste Tailor
G59, Holiday Plaza, Jalan Dato Sulaiman,
80250 Taman Century, Johor Bahru, Johor, Malaysia

mighty morphin

the obsession started 2 years ago, when his dad pulled out an album full of his baby photos.

i couldn't get over how much his features hadn't changed much and his ears were already so huge and flappy then. whenever i missed him when he was on his work trips, i would look at his baby photos hahah! how can anyone look so cute:

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recently i got his dad to show me more photos and i found out that lhy used to be an old man before his cute days:

 HAHA i was so shocked when i saw this photo cos i couldn't recognise this old man at all. look at his double chin and how the width of his face is wider than the height. if i had a fat and pale baby like that i would be so amused.

 baby fats squishing his already small eyes and his lack of a neck. and look at how the face and shoulder width are almost in the ratio 1:1. sharp and defined nose starting to take shape.

 this is where he starts to morph into a baby and his ears start to stick out and he starts to have really cute expressions.

 on some days he looked like baby swee pea

and his eyes became slightly bigger cos some of the baby fats disappeared

 and then he learnt how to roar like a dinosaur

because i want my eyes to look even smaller. 

i would be very pleased if our not-so-near-future offspring resembled him.

so these few days he has been away again and i have been looking at these photos, laughing to myself. 

love-sickness makes one crazy. i can't wait for him to be back!

in other news, i've uninstalled facebook and instagram mobile in efforts to increase productivity. i've since finished 1/2 a book in a span of a few days of travel time, cleaned up the house a little and traded my beloved sewing machine for a better model.

loving my new lifestyle.

小白船

what my dad used to sing me to sleep.

a lovely cacophony of our different cultures. 

heard this live 2 weeks ago at the SSEAYP Singapore opening! 

Totally wasn't expecting such a treat, but they sounded even more exceptional in real life. 

I must say, watching Teng's inception till now and just hearing how their music has morphed over the years makes me feel strangely proud of the few whom i once did music with.

breathless

Work has been consuming me these past weeks as I spend a bulk of my time settling things not within my scope at work. I know I gotta just pull things together now in this season to help out in areas that lack, but I constantly question when it will end, and how these things are taking me away from

1) free time for personal growth/ reflection

2) God

3) breathing space

4) building up the more important skill sets like analysis, broadening and deepening depth of industries I'm more interested in, exploring new ways of research.

I'm tired. Really tired.

I guess, the only thing that is making me hang on to this thin rope is watching how my colleagues put in so much effort to make things work out.

Wedding dresses/outfits

!!!

This was a experience that I will live to tell my grand children.

The truth is, I wanted the "perfect" wedding dress but couldn't bring myself to pay such exorbitant prices for the quality stuff.

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Before I move on, let me rant about the wedding business. I don't understand why there are wedding boutiques which buy stuff from China manufacturers/ Taobao and mark up prices ridiculously. I get that it's easy to cheat brides because of how emotionally/financially invested in this big day, but it's annoying when they tell you it's done by an in-house designer, when you obviously saw it on discount on Taobao.

Secondly, I've realised that local wedding boutiques in general are behind on wedding trends by I dunno, 2-3 seasons? They import stuff from China/Taiwan, both of which are not exactly your fashion capitals. Unless you go to the super designer boutiques where they customise your gowns, the stuff there just looks old and yellow. This season's supposed to have tons of sheer/nude/non-white looking wedding dresses, but I didn't find any! (this season's stuff are really <3, unless the gown is too sheer/nude and you can literally see your boob shape or thighs. Still don't understand why anyone would wanna look like something out of the Emperor's New Clothes.)

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Ok end of rant! To be honest, I didn't start visiting boutiques but went to pinterest instead, because I was put off by the prices (2.5k to rent a few gowns, can I knock my head against the wall). I started to look on Taobao for good knock-offs of these dresses. It was extremely hard to find. Out of 100 dresses, you will probably find 3-4 that you like, and most of them don't have user reviews, which was my main concern.

Amazing gowns only if you have money to burn:

Instagram: @etherealthelabel

an amazing gown by JessicaCindy. Would have loved it even more if it had more inner lining!

Before I talk about my own gown journey, I wanna cut to the chase about the better places to visit if you want guaranteed quality stuff, dresses in line with the season, and willing to pay around $1-$2k+ to own a dress (in my opinion, much better than renting ugly wedding dresses from Singapore boutiques). You can always sell it at half the cost on Carousell! Too bad I didn't end up using these options because I didn't have time to explore by the time I lost faith in Taobao wedding dresses, but trust me, unless you have $4-5k to burn on a JessicaCindy customised gown (her dresses are really something!), these are the better options out there:

1) BHLDN: Anthropologie's wedding brand. For the quality, the cost is really reasonable, stuff is up to date, style is abit bohemian, vintage/ classy, depending on which designer's you end up picking. Shipping costs over $200 from the US, but I should have got my sis to drop by their boutique when she was there. That is my greatest regret! :'(

Mad love with tulle, lace and chiffon!

2) 2nd hand gown websites: Not Carousell (though I'm probably gonna sell my dresses there, haha). Since there is lack of good quality gowns in Singapore, it's logical to assume you will not find stuff beyond people trying to do preorders for Taobao gowns, or just a small community of people selling their designer gowns (still expensive, btw.) That's where sites like preownedweddingdresses.com and stillwhite.com.sg (US based) offer much more variety. Since there is a huge pool of people listing their dresses, it's subjected to price competition, so you get much better deals! Plus, most of them probably wore their gown just a few times, and hence still in pristine condition. Some examples

• I've seen this on The Proposal renting at $2k
• Long time ago, I wanted to own an Anna Campbell wedding dress cos i was super into the vintage sort of look, but extremely out of my budget (7k?). They design extremely pretty backs, and intricate beaded neck/boob areas: Here, here, here, here

What I highly recommend before shopping online, though, is to know what cut of dress suits your body shape and personality. Some designs look good on models but not on normal people. Important to go to some bridal shops to test the cut and the feel. When i tried on my first dress, I was quite shocked at how stiff it was cos of the in-built corset. Of course those dresses are the traditional mermaid cuts or A-line/Princess gowns. Nowadays, the trend is no support, as sheer as possible, lol.

Also, the next time you should do is get yourself measured by a professional seamstress, so that you are able to compare against the measurements online. As much as possible, get the reseller to provide her own measurements for comparison.

On hindsight, I realised that different gowns are really made for different types of personalities, and you really don't have to be too influenced by what you see other people wear. I would have preferred a soft, flowy type of white dress, chiffon/lace probably with a sheer/patterned back, bohemian style, no corset - it would have suited my rather carefree personality, allowed freedom in movement, and wasn't too princessy or mainstream. I didn't get to wear it in the end cos I never found this dress!


This was my story..

So, since 2008 I've had this crazy idea to make my own wedding gown. It never materialised as by the time I got to planning the wedding it was 6 months before and I was juggling between work and planning.

On hindsight, if i had a year, I'd probably had explored that idea, played around with tulle, chiffon, lace, and no corset. It would have been an Anna Campbell inspired dress. She doesn't play around that much with dress shapes, and the cut of her dress would have been easier to manage (empire line, my favourite!), but the beauty would really have been the hand sewn appliques around the boob and back area:

If I had a second life I would have done that.

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What I ended up doing:

In May, after 2 months of assessing, I bought 3 wedding gowns off Taobao:

Bridal Dress 1: Mermaid cut lace, with mesh top and back

It came looking exactly like that. The back was a bit of a patchwork, and not as nice as I expected.

The gown was pretty good quality, with the exception of the mesh front. Because of the extremely structured built-in corset and the fact that I didn't customise to my proportions (no such option), the dress body length was abit longer than mine, and hence the mesh gathered strangely and it looked weird. The dress was as usual, too long for my short self.

Despite its flaws I thought it flattered the curves well. This went to my alterable bucket in case I couldn't find a nicer dress.

Bridal Dress 2: Sheer off-shoulder mermaid cut

Let's just say the dress was badly made. The person who recommended me the size based on my measurements overestimated and the dress was too big everywhere. No chance of revival.

Evening Dress 1: Non-structured, slightly sheer mermaid cut, low back dress in forest green

This was the more up-to-date dress of the 3, having that sheer quality, and beaded design. Since I customised the colour, it was customised to my size as well, and fit me super well! 

I was very pleased with it, except for 2 things:

1) It came with absolutely gaudy appliques - getai sequins and cheapo plastic beads. My sweet mummy overcame odds of long-sightedness and spent a few hours removing them for me, so what was left were the glass beads (which were pretty), and these cloth flowers which reminded me of the forest.

2) It was dyed very badly. Wearing it for 20 minutes made my hands green. I was aghast. I refused to wash it repeatedly cos I wasn't sure whether it could handle the washing machine. Cos of that I had to deal with green knees on my first night with Han Yang. (Lately I finally washed it cos it was smelling really musty, thank God it survived. Hoping the next owner doesn't get much of it.)

I love the bare back!

I was still on a quest to find the perfect white dress. Went on Taobao again:

Bridal Dress 3: Tulle bridesmaid dress in white

I bought this design, supposedly a bridesmaid dress, in white, and added a train behind. it made me look like a dumpling.

And then I procrastinated for 2 months. At the back of my mind I knew I had to settle this, but I was super busy with other things! By the time I got back to dress-hunting, it was already the beginning of August. At that time, I had already altered Bridal Dress 1's length, and snipped off the mesh front and back, so it was incomplete. Despite working on this dress, I was still not convinced that I couldn't buy another nicer dress that suited me.

I ended up looking back at BHLDN, and knowing that it was risky to buy direct, I tried carousell, and I found this!

Lucca Maxi by Watters

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The beading is crazy intricate, I was blown away!!! She had it in my size and it was already altered to my height as well. I really wanted to get it. The only thing was, it was not in white (which I really wanted it to be, but this was actually made to be a bridesmaid dress, but many brides wear it cos it's just breath-taking). Also, I didn't know whether it was flattering to my body shape. 

tingmakeup.com

I couldn't get to try it cos the lady selling it didn't allow try-ons. My sis didn't think it was wise that I bought another dress without trying, and so I let it go. 

I will never know how I look like in that dress. :'(

My sis was really my saving grace. She told me to stop all online activities, and to get my butt out to try on real dresses at the bridal shops so that I knew what dresses I liked instead of wasting money and precious time. She accompanied me on a Sunday trying dresses, where I was sorely disappointed by the range that they had. I was becoming a bridezilla, and super cranky. God bless my dear sis, who took the brunt of my snappiness. She kept telling me that I looked lovely in Bridal Dress 1, and whisked me to Spotlight to find lace for the alteration. I bought it, but was so adamant on looking online again.

#foolishbride

So I chanced upon this US website, JJhouse, which made customised dresses and found this:

Dress 4: Empire cut dress with chio back

This was 16th August. I asked my sis, and she still didn't think should buy online after my multiple failures, but that she would still support me if I went ahead. #BestSisEver

It came. on 30th August. From SUZHOU, CHINA. 

I laughed at my foolishness.

 The cut was lovely, but the size was too big and the chiffon was of bad quality.

Back to square one. 

I was this close to putting $550 to get the BHLDN dusty pink dress, but I couldn't bring myself to spend any more money. I had already wasted so much on so many crappy dresses. I was also extremely panicky cos I had no other options left. My sister listened to my predicament, and didn't blame me for not listening to her. She just encouraged me to alter Bridal Dress 1 again.

So I did.

After I removed the mesh, the dress did not have any structure to hold it up as it was a mere tube with a low back. It needed some sort of collar/material over the chest for security. I didn't want the back to be boring backless as well. Thank God for Pinterest for I amassed many designs to work with. This was the night of September 1st. Yes, I was to be married on the morning of September 3rd. Decided to go ahead with the classic mandarin collar since my mind was too tired to think, and I liked cheongsams anyway.

Follow Hui Xin's board white/lace on Pinterest.

I didn't take many photos even though it was an 8 hour process. I hand-sewed everything as the lace was too delicate for the machine. By the time I was done, I felt like a zombie with a long day of appointments ahead.

Started with the Mandarin collar. Thank God I had some extra satin material as the base because I altered the length, and I had randomly bought super duper stiff interlacing from Chinatown one fine day.

See the sunlight streaming onto my bed? It was time for my breakfast appointment already. By that time, I was done with everything except for fixing the lace back to the dress and fixing the button for the mandarin collar.

In between appointments, I came home and did just that:

How it looked:

Front

Back (not very obvious!)

This was really a journey of ups and downs. As frivolous as it seemed, it was one of those experiences that you learnt a whole lot about yourself. Why, oh why, was looking perfect so crucial? It took me alot to give this to God, those moments of wrestling and being a brat and crying out: Why couldn't He just let me chance upon the perfect dress?

The funny thing is, 

I found out that I did.

I remember groggy me, the night that I was drafting the design, wore this dress with its pins still intact, excitedly exclaiming to my sister "I THINK THIS IS IT, THE PERFECT DRESS!" I was really so happy at the outcome, I cried tears of joy. 

At the start, I really wanted something bohemian as I wanted all three dresses (white, tea ceremony, and dinner) to show a different side of me. but I guess God sometimes just has his own ways of turning things around - that because I had a hand in personalising it, that even though it was that same old cheongsam cut, it ended up showing another side of me as well. :) ah, how God turns my expectations around to make me contented.

Moral of the story:

1) Start your search early.

2) Don't buy your dress from Taobao.

3) If you have money to burn, buy from the designers in Singapore/ get it tailor made (in that way you can go for fittings and be assured it won't fail you)

4) If not, you can either make your own dress, or decide on a cut before buying online.

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Side story:

I bought a cheongsam from Taobao too.

Cheongsam Dress 1

I liked the bare back, but I really hated the structured corset and boob area again! I removed them, and I had to wear a heavily padded bra to fill out the hollow of my non-existent boobs. I also decided to outsource altering the length to a friend's mum cos the train was too dramatic.

A few days before, I decided to fall back on a dress I bought during CNY, which I never wore then cos the red made it look too much like wedding.

Cheongsam Dress 2: Lace in red

I bought it from double-woot.com and took out their sleeves. I absolutely love how their dresses fit me like it's tailor-made, and so affordable. I also have this dress in purple :p.

 Can't wait for their CNY designs again!

Cheongsam Dress 3: Batik

Thought that since I spent such a long time on this, and since I was blessed enough to have 2 tea ceremonies, I decided to veer off the red that I was so insistent on and wore this instead.

Moral of the story again:

1) Don't buy your dress from Taobao.